But what if the person actually is a moron or -- maybe more likely -- just really insecure. Just because a person is a moron doesn't make it right to treat them

But what if the person actually is a moron or -- maybe more likely -- just really insecure. Just because a person is a moron doesn't make it right to treat them badly. But yes, I really agree with your comment: This is not usually an issue if you have a well developed relationship to that person. But if the context is still undecided, that's when the phrasing can really decide which way your relationship is going.