Simple. I am less negative when I don’t take it personally. A lot of times defensiveness is due to thinking that it’s about us...100% of the times, it’s not.

Simple. I am less negative when I don’t take it personally. A lot of times defensiveness is due to thinking that it’s about us...100% of the times, it’s not. Online interactions can be exhilaratingly freeing because we don’t have to be held accountable or follow norms. If it seems negative to you, then it means you are holding yourself accountable. You won’t feel negative if you release yourself from accountability. That’s another way too.