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Is meeting a stranger in a public place actually dangerous, or do people just feel that it's dangerous? What is the worst that is likely to happen if two peopl

Is meeting a stranger in a public place actually dangerous, or do people just feel that it's dangerous? What is the worst that is likely to happen if two people meet up in a cafe or city park?

zasz 7y ago
Most women I know would want to meet at a very public place for safety reasons. If a guy comes on hella strong and suggests you meet up at his house and doesn't understand why meeting at a public, neutral place is a good idea, that's a huge red flag.
CPLX 7y ago
The worst that could happen is rape and murder. Talk to women sometimes about how they approach personal safety, and how many scary situations and too-close calls they've already had. It's a law of truly large numbers thing. Even if a tiny tiny minority of guys are actually dangerous, over the course of even a relatively young life the average woman has encountered quite a few of them. They make life decisions accordingly, for understandable reasons.
- RandallBrown 7y ago
  Rapes and murders in public places are exceedingly rare. The app could certainly facilitate "safe" dates by helping guide people toward certain places. That could even be the business model where you would book reservations at certain restaurants, coffee shops, or wherever through the app.
Someone1234 7y ago
Are you suggesting they should advertise a dating app to women by telling women that their concerns over personal safety are misguided? Frankly I don't think gatekeeping a person's comfort level when meeting a stranger is very constructive. In fact I think it would invoke quite a negative reaction (justifiably).
tjalfi 7y ago
Ingrid Lane[0] was murdered by a man she met on an online dating site and had been dating for a month. Meeting strangers may not be a high risk for you but it is for other people. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Ingrid_Lyne https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Ingrid_Lyne
- masonic 7y ago
  They had been dating for a month at that point, so how they originally met was not nearly as relevant as his extensive criminal record was.

Is meeting a stranger in a public place actually dangerous, or do people just feel that it's dangerous? What is the worst that is likely to happen if two people meet up in a cafe or city park?

zasz 7y ago

Most women I know would want to meet at a very public place for safety reasons. If a guy comes on hella strong and suggests you meet up at his house and doesn't understand why meeting at a public, neutral place is a good idea, that's a huge red flag.

CPLX 7y ago

The worst that could happen is rape and murder. Talk to women sometimes about how they approach personal safety, and how many scary situations and too-close calls they've already had. It's a law of truly large numbers thing. Even if a tiny tiny minority of guys are actually dangerous, over the course of even a relatively young life the average woman has encountered quite a few of them. They make life decisions accordingly, for understandable reasons.

RandallBrown 7y ago
Rapes and murders in public places are exceedingly rare. The app could certainly facilitate "safe" dates by helping guide people toward certain places. That could even be the business model where you would book reservations at certain restaurants, coffee shops, or wherever through the app.

Someone1234 7y ago

Are you suggesting they should advertise a dating app to women by telling women that their concerns over personal safety are misguided? Frankly I don't think gatekeeping a person's comfort level when meeting a stranger is very constructive. In fact I think it would invoke quite a negative reaction (justifiably).

tjalfi 7y ago

Ingrid Lane[0] was murdered by a man she met on an online dating site and had been dating for a month. Meeting strangers may not be a high risk for you but it is for other people. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Ingrid_Lyne https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Ingrid_Lyne

masonic 7y ago
They had been dating for a month at that point, so how they originally met was not nearly as relevant as his extensive criminal record was.