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Taking initiative is exhausting, especially if you are very introverted like a lot of people are in tech. This means that you are unlikely to try a lot of girls

Taking initiative is exhausting, especially if you are very introverted like a lot of people are in tech. This means that you are unlikely to try a lot of girls, so you'll go with the first one who says yes, thus very likely ending up in a horrible relationship. There are of course some very introverted men who end up in good loving relationships, but I believe they are a tiny minority. Your odds could get improved if you were exceptional in some way, but if you are just a typical person then good luck.

throwlaplace 7y ago
>Taking initiative is exhausting, especially if you are very introverted like a lot of people are in tech. This reads like an indictment of... Something. But what? Should there be public policy that helps socially awkward men mate like there's public policy that helps disabled people access public services? Yes it's challenging to be different from normal. Welcome to the privilege discussion. Now that you're here what do you think our priorities should be?
- username90 7y ago
  It isn't an indictment, it is just an observation. > Now that you're here what do you think our priorities should be? Personally I'm fine being alone, both my parents were in multiple extremely toxic marriages so I feel no need to get into one myself.
- ta11235813 7y ago
  A reasonable ask seems to be for society to provide resources to help people learn to overcome the challenge and an environment where they are able to. After all, the point of society is to allow its members to meet their needs.
  - throwlaplace 7y ago
    you're not wrong. i can't help but wonder whether you (and anyone else who agrees) extends this kind of consideration to all of the abnormal people that move through the world. i posted the comment that you responded to because it's an opportunity for people to sympathize.
- monksy 7y ago
  > This reads like an indictment of... Something. But what? Should there be public policy that helps socially awkward men mate like there's public policy that helps disabled people access public services? That's kind of what the "pickup artist" businesses addressed and helped with.
_bxg1 7y ago
To put it more delicately than a sibling comment, yes, that's a real problem and there's no singular solution to it. But even if taking initiative is hard, I honestly think it's essential. It may take practice, it may be draining, but relationships aren't going to fall out of the sky.

throwlaplace 7y ago

>Taking initiative is exhausting, especially if you are very introverted like a lot of people are in tech. This reads like an indictment of... Something. But what? Should there be public policy that helps socially awkward men mate like there's public policy that helps disabled people access public services? Yes it's challenging to be different from normal. Welcome to the privilege discussion. Now that you're here what do you think our priorities should be?

username90 7y ago
It isn't an indictment, it is just an observation. > Now that you're here what do you think our priorities should be? Personally I'm fine being alone, both my parents were in multiple extremely toxic marriages so I feel no need to get into one myself.
ta11235813 7y ago
A reasonable ask seems to be for society to provide resources to help people learn to overcome the challenge and an environment where they are able to. After all, the point of society is to allow its members to meet their needs.
- throwlaplace 7y ago
  you're not wrong. i can't help but wonder whether you (and anyone else who agrees) extends this kind of consideration to all of the abnormal people that move through the world. i posted the comment that you responded to because it's an opportunity for people to sympathize.
monksy 7y ago
> This reads like an indictment of... Something. But what? Should there be public policy that helps socially awkward men mate like there's public policy that helps disabled people access public services? That's kind of what the "pickup artist" businesses addressed and helped with.

_bxg1 7y ago

To put it more delicately than a sibling comment, yes, that's a real problem and there's no singular solution to it. But even if taking initiative is hard, I honestly think it's essential. It may take practice, it may be draining, but relationships aren't going to fall out of the sky.