I read most of the post (unlike others in here) and his issue is distinct from that of many others on dating apps (or at least it is according to his self-repor

I read most of the post (unlike others in here) and his issue is distinct from that of many others on dating apps (or at least it is according to his self-reported behavior). it is probably not relatable to most here (because he's bending over backwards to be egalitarian and most on here lean the other way) so I'll just respond in case he ends up reading this. I share many of your concerns and sensitivities around feminism and autonomy. despite being arguably just as sensitive as you are (according to feedback from former partners) I do well on apps and in dating. how? I'm assertive and aggressive but I get explicit consent at every escalation. And if you think I'm exaggerating I am not. Evey escalation. now obviously I'm not tactless - I do not have multi form contracts that I ask for signatures on. I simply check in and we have a short, always interesting, conversation about boundaries and trajectory and all that. most of the time everything goes as expected but I have been rejected (which is also how I'm sure the way I'm doing it is working - because when feel free to say no). it works very well. I have deep meaningful dates (that turn into relationships often). aside from that I'll say, from the photos of you online, you're not doing yourself any favors. I think I could help you but I don't know you personally. I have toyed with the idea of starting a consulting service that taught men how to present themselves such that they're attractive.