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I'm not sure if I'm alone in this, but I vehemently avoid guides or manuals to human interaction after a near-miss encounter with PUA shit in high school that a
by dejawu 7y ago
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this, but I vehemently avoid guides or manuals to human interaction after a near-miss encounter with PUA shit in high school that almost led to me becoming a very different and much less likable person. Once I'm told that there's a certain way that is more or less "optimal" to interact with other people, I'm going to start seeing every conversation as an optimization problem, and that is simply not how I want to approach human interaction. I'd much prefer to stick with the quite-imperfect but naturally-obtained intuition that I've slowly gained over time.
- vehementi 7y agoHad the same near-miss but doesn't that put us in a position to better evaluate things? Read it with a critical eye? Understand it as tips and not cheat codes? Note things that are in disagreement with how I behave and might be worthy of introspection?
- rimliu 7y agoInteracting with others by-the-book goes as smoothly as driving with your eyes closed and just listening to the directions given by someone sitting next to you. Ok, I will turn right now, but why?