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Two things I find help me... Number 1: Stop being a victim, its far too easy to blame things that occured in the past for causing your current situation. You

Two things I find help me... Number 1: Stop being a victim, its far too easy to blame things that occured in the past for causing your current situation. You cant change what happend, accept it and move on, I know it sounds like im saying just get over it but thats not what I mean. Your trauma will probably stay with you for the rest of your life, it sucks and I feel for you, but no matter what it was, it only has the ability to affect your future life if you let it. Start by dealing with the addiction, dont use the trauma as an excuse to feed it, if you have cravings accept them for what they are. Lots of people deal with addictions, you dont need any reason why, just be aware that you are addicted and take real action to deal with it. Number 2: Get your hands in some dirt asap, plant a bean, start a herb garden it doest matter just grow something. The act of raising a living thing and caring for it is extremely therapeutic. It will bring purpose to your life. I cant stress this enough, buy an amaryllis bulb if your worried about not having a green thumb. Grow something and your soul will heal. Trust me!! Good luck.

wallace_f 7y ago
Yea I really should be careful about presenting a victimhood personality, as well as in the way I perceive myself. My intention here was to explain myself honestly and I didn't expect it to come across so strongly that way. However, I think there is middle ground here. For example, I wouldn't want to hear you tell a rape victim the same thing. Anyways, before these things I was very successful in both career and personal pursuits, and after I wasn't. So it is important, but I will be careful about giving the perception of a victimhood mentality -- I know people dislike that -- as well as consider if I am treating myself that way, though presently I wasn't aware of this.

wallace_f 7y ago

Yea I really should be careful about presenting a victimhood personality, as well as in the way I perceive myself. My intention here was to explain myself honestly and I didn't expect it to come across so strongly that way. However, I think there is middle ground here. For example, I wouldn't want to hear you tell a rape victim the same thing. Anyways, before these things I was very successful in both career and personal pursuits, and after I wasn't. So it is important, but I will be careful about giving the perception of a victimhood mentality -- I know people dislike that -- as well as consider if I am treating myself that way, though presently I wasn't aware of this.