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Update HN: Reverse Marriage Proposal - She said yes

3 points by krmmalik 16y ago

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NovemberWest 16y ago
My account is apparently too new for me to submit this, which I guess answers my question as to how to post it (on its own or as a reply): http://www.novemberwest.com/blog/?p=136 http://www.novemberwest.com/blog/?p=136 Perhaps this will foster a little conversation here.
- allenbrunson 16y ago
  Whatever problem you had posting, it wasn't because your account is too new. It's all too common to see submissions from accounts that are like ten seconds old.
  - NovemberWest 16y ago
    I got a message saying something like "You are posting too fast. Please slow down." And my post did not show up. (I thought it was the most lovely rejection I've ever seen. And I write polite letters of that sort as part of my job.) Perhaps my inference is incorrect. Or perhaps policy recently changed. <shrug>
    - allenbrunson 16y ago
      Uh oh. That's what happens when the site suspects abuse. Accounts that have been hell-banned for bad behavior get that message, for example. You are not hell-banned, because I can read and reply to your messages, but perhaps it's something similar. Have you had an account here before? Has somebody in your house had one? I'm not exactly sure how it works, but the site could have your IP address flagged or something.
      - NovemberWest 16y ago
        Thanks for the heads up. I do have another account, in good standing. I don't want this website associated with that account, so I created a second one. It isn't intended as "spam" at all. But I realize there are challenges in trying to keep the two things separate and not have this account look like spam. I've thought a lot about whether and how to develop this new site and keep it separate from other stuff I am doing and I don't really have any good answers. I imagine in the long run it will probably not remain separate. For now, I want it to blossom on its own.
- krmmalik 16y ago
  With all respect. I think you've slightly missed the point. There are A LOT of guys out there who can't get a 2nd date, even though they're a great catch. My post is aimed at them.
srean 16y ago
If i get:- * $500 in donations, i'm willing to put together a blog post outlining the specifics of what i did differently to what i would normally do , and will respond to all comments on the blog post * $1000 in donations, im willing to put together a 20 to 30 minute audio outlining what i have learned * $2000 in donations i'll put together an actual video and upload to YouTube. (Im saying this one rather reluctantly. Im quite a shy fella) Huh! what is this ? some kind of a marriage proposal porn ?
- petervandijck 16y ago
  Flagged.
krmmalik 16y ago
I can understand people may not agree with my idea to raise finance for the wedding this way. I can totally understand and appreciate that, but i expected people to be a little more civil in their objection. For the lady that wrote the blog post. Interestingly you make a very valid point and i agree completely that the man pursuing the woman is a failed paradigm. As for the eloping suggestion. Believe you, me. I would love to do that. I have seriously considered it. Unfortunately, i come from a very traditional culture, and so does she. It would be considered very taboo. I dont want to upset her or her family in any way.
- krmmalik 16y ago
  Also, people like David DeAngelo and others sell eBooks, host seminars and have other commercial products on this kind of stuff. I dont see what is wrong with it if it genuinely helps someone?
  - stray 16y ago
    David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) offers an unconditional money-back guarantee. But the way you've set this thing up, you couldn't possibly do the same. I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong -- but as soon as I recognized the David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) style of marketing, I was immediately turned off to anything else you had to say. Perhaps you should just openly offer your commercial product as the commercial product it is -- like David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) does...
- NovemberWest 16y ago
  I think there are ways to monetize this information but I think you are going about it all wrong. You don't want your families to disapprove or be upset but you seem oblivious to the way you are alienating the business community/your audience. Ask around. Find a more above-board means to make money off this. Win-win. As for tradition and family: I generally feel they are allowed to set expectations if they are willing to help make it happen. If the expectation is that all the money comes out of your pocket, I don't feel they have any say. But I realize I come from a different culture. FWIW: My family was upset when they learned of my elopement. My marriage lasted longer than either of my siblings. I think I did the right thing.
stray 16y ago
Where's the reverse donation button?
- krmmalik 16y ago
  Haha. Too funny. Touche!

3 points by krmmalik 16y ago

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My account is apparently too new for me to submit this, which I guess answers my question as to how to post it (on its own or as a reply): http://www.novemberwest.com/blog/?p=136 http://www.novemberwest.com/blog/?p=136 Perhaps this will foster a little conversation here.

allenbrunson 16y ago
Whatever problem you had posting, it wasn't because your account is too new. It's all too common to see submissions from accounts that are like ten seconds old.
- NovemberWest 16y ago
  I got a message saying something like "You are posting too fast. Please slow down." And my post did not show up. (I thought it was the most lovely rejection I've ever seen. And I write polite letters of that sort as part of my job.) Perhaps my inference is incorrect. Or perhaps policy recently changed. <shrug>
  - allenbrunson 16y ago
    Uh oh. That's what happens when the site suspects abuse. Accounts that have been hell-banned for bad behavior get that message, for example. You are not hell-banned, because I can read and reply to your messages, but perhaps it's something similar. Have you had an account here before? Has somebody in your house had one? I'm not exactly sure how it works, but the site could have your IP address flagged or something.
    - NovemberWest 16y ago
      Thanks for the heads up. I do have another account, in good standing. I don't want this website associated with that account, so I created a second one. It isn't intended as "spam" at all. But I realize there are challenges in trying to keep the two things separate and not have this account look like spam. I've thought a lot about whether and how to develop this new site and keep it separate from other stuff I am doing and I don't really have any good answers. I imagine in the long run it will probably not remain separate. For now, I want it to blossom on its own.
krmmalik 16y ago
With all respect. I think you've slightly missed the point. There are A LOT of guys out there who can't get a 2nd date, even though they're a great catch. My post is aimed at them.

srean 16y ago

If i get:- * $500 in donations, i'm willing to put together a blog post outlining the specifics of what i did differently to what i would normally do , and will respond to all comments on the blog post * $1000 in donations, im willing to put together a 20 to 30 minute audio outlining what i have learned * $2000 in donations i'll put together an actual video and upload to YouTube. (Im saying this one rather reluctantly. Im quite a shy fella) Huh! what is this ? some kind of a marriage proposal porn ?

petervandijck 16y ago
Flagged.

krmmalik 16y ago

I can understand people may not agree with my idea to raise finance for the wedding this way. I can totally understand and appreciate that, but i expected people to be a little more civil in their objection. For the lady that wrote the blog post. Interestingly you make a very valid point and i agree completely that the man pursuing the woman is a failed paradigm. As for the eloping suggestion. Believe you, me. I would love to do that. I have seriously considered it. Unfortunately, i come from a very traditional culture, and so does she. It would be considered very taboo. I dont want to upset her or her family in any way.

krmmalik 16y ago
Also, people like David DeAngelo and others sell eBooks, host seminars and have other commercial products on this kind of stuff. I dont see what is wrong with it if it genuinely helps someone?
- stray 16y ago
  David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) offers an unconditional money-back guarantee. But the way you've set this thing up, you couldn't possibly do the same. I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong -- but as soon as I recognized the David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) style of marketing, I was immediately turned off to anything else you had to say. Perhaps you should just openly offer your commercial product as the commercial product it is -- like David DeAngelo (not his real name, btw) does...
NovemberWest 16y ago
I think there are ways to monetize this information but I think you are going about it all wrong. You don't want your families to disapprove or be upset but you seem oblivious to the way you are alienating the business community/your audience. Ask around. Find a more above-board means to make money off this. Win-win. As for tradition and family: I generally feel they are allowed to set expectations if they are willing to help make it happen. If the expectation is that all the money comes out of your pocket, I don't feel they have any say. But I realize I come from a different culture. FWIW: My family was upset when they learned of my elopement. My marriage lasted longer than either of my siblings. I think I did the right thing.

stray 16y ago

Where's the reverse donation button?

krmmalik 16y ago
Haha. Too funny. Touche!