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The author seems to me to be blaming society and her former employer for her own failings. Perhaps if she were smarter about how she performed her job duties sh

The author seems to me to be blaming society and her former employer for her own failings. Perhaps if she were smarter about how she performed her job duties she wouldn't be so overwhelmed, unable to do even basic chores like buying groceries or going to the gym. And if it really was the fault of her unreasonable employer/boss, she could have applied to other jobs. Or maybe she should find a different industry, or develop useful skills that are in enough demand in the economy for her to dictate a better work environment. By blaming everything and everyone but herself, she has set herself up to fail. It's not the patriarchy or capitalism that is the cause of her issues-- it's her own bad choices and even worse ways of grappling with the fallout of her bad decisions.

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AstralStorm 7y ago
Nice example of prevalent victim blaming. The mentally ill person expected to cure themselves? Really? If you consider her to be setting herself for failure, why did nobody help her before it was too late? There are very strong social pressures on staying working. Be the hero to buck them, see what your spouse thinks if you have one. Or friends - suddenly you're considered a loser. And the key thing is that switching jobs requires patience and actual work to not land in the same or worse hole. Even then, when truly exhausted, you might be unable to hold on in the new place. Develop useful skills? Taking say up to six years with what money and energy? Then getting hired while being older this many years, quite a challenge. What's your solution? "Stiff upper lip?" Boundless forced optimism? Job hopping? Just being rich? Having actual friends? (but not everyone is so lucky) Even psychologists have problems dealing with this thing.
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  Calling it "victim blaming" presupposes the existence of a victim in this scenario. But there is no victim-- her own actions are the cause of her problems. This is not an example of someone getting assaulted on the street corner by a stranger and saying "well, they shouldn't have been by themselves in a dangerous area late at night, it's their own fault." No one put a gun to her head-- she isn't an indentured servant, or in a prison work gang. She lives in one of the freest places in the world (and in human history), with the best economy in decades and the lowest unemployment rate in recorded history. At some point you need to take ownership of your own destiny.

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AstralStorm 7y ago

Nice example of prevalent victim blaming. The mentally ill person expected to cure themselves? Really? If you consider her to be setting herself for failure, why did nobody help her before it was too late? There are very strong social pressures on staying working. Be the hero to buck them, see what your spouse thinks if you have one. Or friends - suddenly you're considered a loser. And the key thing is that switching jobs requires patience and actual work to not land in the same or worse hole. Even then, when truly exhausted, you might be unable to hold on in the new place. Develop useful skills? Taking say up to six years with what money and energy? Then getting hired while being older this many years, quite a challenge. What's your solution? "Stiff upper lip?" Boundless forced optimism? Job hopping? Just being rich? Having actual friends? (but not everyone is so lucky) Even psychologists have problems dealing with this thing.

eigenvalue 7y ago
Calling it "victim blaming" presupposes the existence of a victim in this scenario. But there is no victim-- her own actions are the cause of her problems. This is not an example of someone getting assaulted on the street corner by a stranger and saying "well, they shouldn't have been by themselves in a dangerous area late at night, it's their own fault." No one put a gun to her head-- she isn't an indentured servant, or in a prison work gang. She lives in one of the freest places in the world (and in human history), with the best economy in decades and the lowest unemployment rate in recorded history. At some point you need to take ownership of your own destiny.