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I've been driven crazy by all that, and I won't say what else because I'm afraid that you'd notice it too. What I'd suggest: 1. You're going to harp on it. It
by ben509 7y ago
I've been driven crazy by all that, and I won't say what else because I'm afraid that you'd notice it too.
What I'd suggest:
1. You're going to harp on it. It starts with the annoying sounds, but then you're telling yourself about how rude they are, how gross they are, the injustice of it all.
Yes, here and there you've got a point, but 99% of it is you trying to rationalize your feelings, and then it wants to assign blame because people are the perpetrators of it.
2. Take breaks to stop harping on it. I vape, so that's my excuse, but you don't even need one, you're just taking five minutes every hour or so to stretch your legs. Deliberately do something that occupies your mind and gets your stress levels down.
3. See if you can work from home a day a week, or even a half-day. Take vacation as regularly as possible.
I think it's both made worse by stress and increases stress levels, classic feedback loop, so my approach is to avoid it as much as possible and use other means to get my stress levels down.
You'll have good days and bad days, if you're really down and ready to yell at people, maybe talk to a shrink.
- brailsafe 7y agoI think these are good on-point suggestions, all of which I'm doing to some extent. Outright blame is tough to control. I'm trying to continually remind myself that those are my opinions of their behaviour, and they just are habituated to that for whatever reason. I can't assume that, particularly in an ethnically diverse office, everyone would have an identical institutionalized definition of polite. Also that my experience of it is rational, in so much as something uncontrollable couldn't be irrational, and that's just better to find a way to work with or around. Thankfully, this is a relatively small and flat org that somewhat embraces autonomy. I personally take as many breaks as I can or want because it's still part of work. Likewise working out of a coffee shop is something I'm very comfortable with, so I've started doing that as well. Working from home is less common here, so that'll be a discussion I think. Also thanks for not mentioning whatever the other one was. The sounds I'm fully stressed about are the ones I mentioned, but others are just revolting in a vaccuum. Like farts, audible burps, coughing without covering.