people say it like it's a bad thing that people have deep roots in a city and plenty of friends and family they've known for decades. as if a city full of trans

people say it like it's a bad thing that people have deep roots in a city and plenty of friends and family they've known for decades. as if a city full of transient people all desperate to make new short-term friendships is a great thing. just because someone like myself chose to leave behind their hometown and move somewhere new doesn't mean I get to complain that locals aren't going out of their way to bring me into their fold. it's my problem, not theirs. IMO it's a privilege to have deep roots in your city. it's a normal consequence to not put a lot of effort into developing new ones when you are already over capacity and lack time to see the friends you have. that said, it's fine to remain curious about new people, who can also enrich your life.