Something important I realized when I was about 30 is no matter how beautiful and sexy your girlfriend is, sooner or later (usually after about 6 months of livi

Something important I realized when I was about 30 is no matter how beautiful and sexy your girlfriend is, sooner or later (usually after about 6 months of living together) sexual chemistry will be gone. Not completely, but there will be times when you’re bored with her (physically, emotionally, or intellectually), and are interested in other women. That’s normal. What remains however is whether or not you want to work together with that person on building/maintaining a family (raising kids). Think of kids as a difficult long term project, like a “startup”, where the qualities of your “cofounder” can make it or break it. I’d look for the same personal qualities in both a wife and a cofounder. Source: married for 12 years with 2 kids, currently looking for a startup cofounder :) PS. actually there are several independent kinds of chemistry between people (sexual, emotional, intellectual) and what I wrote equally applies to any of them. Also, you will get used to some of the negative qualities of your wife, but not all, and those can drive you crazy and cause serious conflicts. Try to identify them, and do not expect them to go away.