Nobody knows where feelings come from, what makes them real and but not a mask, a behaviour people can embody? They are both real. You said: "There are two fun

Nobody knows where feelings come from, what makes them real and but not a mask, a behaviour people can embody? They are both real. You said: "There are two fundamental arguments of the self" You conflated criticizing haircuts with a disgust reward and constructed a view on narcissists that is defined by feelings nearly everyone feels. Your view on feelings is too limited to identify a narcissist, as demonstrated by the idea that you can go through feelings and appear to be an addict from outside, but not be one. Butted in to what? A public thread? The mask idea comes from psychology. A narcissist suffers narcissitic wounds at an early age and learns to develop a false persona to please abusive parents instead of a healthy self that grows over time. They stay locked in a cycle of abuse trying to escape past trauma instead of dealing with it and it is unleashed on those around them when the tension becomes too much. They frequently rely on charm and a single talent to get them achievements to please said relationship and are found to be brittle or liars when challenged. They will suck the life-force out of others to fuel their own lack of a self. There is a whole bunch of psychological information on this. This all has an overlap with the external version of the story, the narcissus myth. Narcissus is a spirit that embodies the story of self love, being so captivating to some. He has multiple outcomes. In one he captures the attention of another so completely that their life becomes drained away and the adorer becomes no more than an echo in a forest, which mirrors the fueling the self & abuse cycle from psychology. In another part he sees his reflection in a pool and becomes unable to leave his own reflection and eventually suicides or recognizes that the love cannot be reciprocated and becomes a flower, which mirrors a lot of the empathy focused therapy techniques.