No similar experience, but as a father of 3 I wish you all the strenghth in the world... One word of support: it has been my experience that kids are incredibl

No similar experience, but as a father of 3 I wish you all the strenghth in the world... One word of support: it has been my experience that kids are incredibly resilient. They 'bounce back' so much easier from serious and/or life-changing events than adults can. From what I've read about VUR there's a pretty good chance things will be a lot, lot better in 1 to 1,5 year for you all. Which brings me to my advice: despite the hardship, try to enjoy each other. You want to remember her first steps, words, teething, not the 100s hospital visits. Stay strong!