My biggest concern with this sort of thing, and it's a general criticism, is that the suggested way always comes across as very weak, roundabout, and doesn't ev

My biggest concern with this sort of thing, and it's a general criticism, is that the suggested way always comes across as very weak, roundabout, and doesn't ever convey the same kind of sentiment as the language that is discouraged. You can be direct and unambiguous without being an asshole, but the suggestion usually is to use some artificial passive-voice construction that no real person ever speaks like, and which completely blunts the criticism.