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I had to deal with some alpha-kids at school, but at the time, nobody called that bullying. I also never viewed that as a problem, because I was never heavily b

I had to deal with some alpha-kids at school, but at the time, nobody called that bullying. I also never viewed that as a problem, because I was never heavily beaten and I would also hit back, I hit once a kid so hard that I broke his jaw and nobody ever touched a finger on me and I made very lasting friends after that episode. That made me grow as a person as well, but it wasn't very necessary. I'd rather have not went through this. Other kids on my class didn't fight back and have been abused, which is quite bad. School has very similar dynamics to prisons and the earlier a kid finds it out(or has parents that explain to them), the better. I also helped a lot of kids that got bullied on school, but there is much more kids willing to bully than kids willing to help. At least that made me also long-lasting friendships. I think those "bullying" dynamics happen similarly when you become an adult, where police is there to hit minorities and displaced people. Where those alpha-kids with good backgrounds fare very well while bullying employees and doing their own schemes, and when things go south, their banks get bailed out. Meanwhile you as a working class have to keep pushing forward, accepting to do overtime and so on. Getting bullied forever is something humans just accept as a fate. Some kids, just as some adults, really fail to fight back and find their own space in that system and end up in a bad position. I'd say that those who failed to fight back at school also end up failing to fight back as adults. At least in the adult world things are a bit more civilised at a times, which gives the impression "that is just life and it's working as expected". But it is still there. My mother, even though we were very poor, since I was very young, used to tell me how it is important to have an edge/advantage over people and how society is basically made of that. The more I can get away with, the better I'm positioned and that I should pay attention to that and use that to guide me. It took me a while to understand that, but I'm very glad she took the time to teach me that.

yetihehe 7y ago
> I'd say that those who failed to fight back at school also end up failing to fight back as adults. I'm just that kind of person, I'm having hard time fighting back, because typically everytime it made situation worse. I can't think of good response in the time where that response is required, and trying to respond just with violence does nothing good. From what I've seen, bullies typically try to anger someone and steer them towards making actions that hurt or disgrace bullied person, sometimes even making them look like original attacker.
- thiago_fm 7y ago
  Yep. I wouldn't say you ARE this kind of person, you just need to practice more and understand what works. For instance, I'm no way perfect in that art. But it's a subtle thing that many kids don't even notice that exists... and unfortunately end up being just prey for dominant people.

yetihehe 7y ago

> I'd say that those who failed to fight back at school also end up failing to fight back as adults. I'm just that kind of person, I'm having hard time fighting back, because typically everytime it made situation worse. I can't think of good response in the time where that response is required, and trying to respond just with violence does nothing good. From what I've seen, bullies typically try to anger someone and steer them towards making actions that hurt or disgrace bullied person, sometimes even making them look like original attacker.

thiago_fm 7y ago
Yep. I wouldn't say you ARE this kind of person, you just need to practice more and understand what works. For instance, I'm no way perfect in that art. But it's a subtle thing that many kids don't even notice that exists... and unfortunately end up being just prey for dominant people.