> she doesn’t understand why everyone else in the class can’t just listen the first time it’s explained Hey look, it's me! Make sure she knows how to study. A

> she doesn’t understand why everyone else in the class can’t just listen the first time it’s explained Hey look, it's me! Make sure she knows how to study. And doesn't see needing to study as a sure sign of failure, and the act of studying as something adjacent to cheating ("well yeah so-and-so got an A-, but only by studying"). It seems dumb as shit with the distance of [mumble] years but when I finally got around to introspecting re: what exactly went wrong with me starting in 7th or 8th grade—yep, turns out I held those attitudes, even if I might not have phrased it that way at the time. Mind, I have no idea how to do this effectively. Likely we'll be facing the same problem with our eldest at some point, but we're not there yet so I don't have any battle-tested how-to advice.