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I have nothing (to my knowledge) but my opinion on this, but I wouldn't be surprised to find that a majority of people just lack empathy.

by dlp211 7y ago

folkhack 7y ago
I'm speaking anecdotally but would 100% posit that this is true. One of the biggest things I'm learning as an adult in a capitalistic society is that empathy is an anti-pattern to how most medium-to-larger sized corporations operate. Recently I've really come to fully accept that HR at most companies is not there for the employee (regardless of how they internally brand), vs. it being a compliance department and a risk barrier between general employees and the upper-crust. If something bad enough happens, they'll pin it on the HR employee and fire them vs. taking accountability for the company's actions. HR is not your friend.
- XorNot 7y ago
  No but in terms of risk management HR is taking a huge gamble that a bunch of people getting recruiter offers aren't going to go "you know what, screw this place" and leave.
  - folkhack 7y ago
    Yeah here's the thing - if you get a better offer... Leave. If you operate otherwise you're a fool.
    - XorNot 7y ago
      The idea that there's zero-cost to looking for jobs or switching jobs is incredibly naive, doubly so if you're American.
pharrington 7y ago
That's just not true. It's only in cases of extreme pathology that empathy is absent in people. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2374373517699267 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/23743735176992... is a good start if you wanna learn more.
matt4077 7y ago
Or, to be a bit optimistic, they lack agency. I've noticed in myself and others that when you're stressed/inexperienced/otherwise not-at-ease at work, people start behaving defensively. That often turns into this sort of cold-hearted behaviour that people believe is considered professional, even though no competent manager would actually behave that way. It's similar to middle management wearing nicer clothes in the typical signalling theory example.

I have nothing (to my knowledge) but my opinion on this, but I wouldn't be surprised to find that a majority of people just lack empathy.

by dlp211 7y ago

I have nothing (to my knowledge) but my opinion on this, but I wouldn't be surprised to find that a majority of people just lack empathy.

folkhack 7y ago

I'm speaking anecdotally but would 100% posit that this is true. One of the biggest things I'm learning as an adult in a capitalistic society is that empathy is an anti-pattern to how most medium-to-larger sized corporations operate. Recently I've really come to fully accept that HR at most companies is not there for the employee (regardless of how they internally brand), vs. it being a compliance department and a risk barrier between general employees and the upper-crust. If something bad enough happens, they'll pin it on the HR employee and fire them vs. taking accountability for the company's actions. HR is not your friend.

XorNot 7y ago
No but in terms of risk management HR is taking a huge gamble that a bunch of people getting recruiter offers aren't going to go "you know what, screw this place" and leave.
- folkhack 7y ago
  Yeah here's the thing - if you get a better offer... Leave. If you operate otherwise you're a fool.
  - XorNot 7y ago
    The idea that there's zero-cost to looking for jobs or switching jobs is incredibly naive, doubly so if you're American.

pharrington 7y ago

That's just not true. It's only in cases of extreme pathology that empathy is absent in people. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2374373517699267 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/23743735176992... is a good start if you wanna learn more.

matt4077 7y ago

Or, to be a bit optimistic, they lack agency. I've noticed in myself and others that when you're stressed/inexperienced/otherwise not-at-ease at work, people start behaving defensively. That often turns into this sort of cold-hearted behaviour that people believe is considered professional, even though no competent manager would actually behave that way. It's similar to middle management wearing nicer clothes in the typical signalling theory example.