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I am also a bereaved parent, although my child died at age 25. I utterly agree about the grave mental health issues being caused in the parents. May peace be

I am also a bereaved parent, although my child died at age 25. I utterly agree about the grave mental health issues being caused in the parents. May peace be unto you. (Ping me if you want info about an organization called "The Compassionate Friends" specifically for bereaved parents.)

falcolas 7y ago
Those folks have been around forever, and I'm thankful for them. Not for my own sake, but because my mother had 3-4 miscarriages and one child who died of SIDS (this was in the early 70's). They most likely kept her sane.
0x29A- 7y ago
As father to the best 8 month young man in the world I can't imagine even for a moment what that is like. I never ever comment on hacker news, I just wanted to say I'm deeply sorry anyone here may have lost their child.
- cdolan 7y ago
  On Oct 4 a friend (code name “Paul”) and I were at a viewing for our 25 year old friend who passed from falling while hiking. “Paul” and I both have boys born this year (5-6 months old). After attending the viewing, we both noted how sad it was to watch the father and mother in such a terrible situation. The worst for any parent, and somehow slightly more understandable now that we are parents ourselves. That night his son passed away silently in his sleep - Not even 12 hours since we talked at the viewing about how surreal losing a child would be. Their baby simply stopped breathing. We’re all still in some level of shock. Hug your little ones and appreciate the time you get with them. You never know when your life can go the other direction.
  - fghorow 7y ago
    That is utterly tragic. Please be good to "Paul", and do not expect him to "get over it" anytime soon. It doesn't work like that in my experience. If he and family are ready for it, perhaps mentioning The Compassionate Friends -- along with its link I've posted elsewhere in this page -- might be gratefully received? My local chapter is wonderful, and has kept my wife and I as sane as we are after losing our (only) son. May peace be unto "Paul".
    - cdolan 7y ago
      Thanks. I know my friends will never get over it. My wife had a sister that passed at 6 months old from a heart issue and my MiL said exactly that (“they’ll never forget its always with you every hour of every day”). If you don’t mind my asking what part of the world are you in?
umanwizard 7y ago
FYI, Hacker News doesn’t have a DM feature.
- klyrs 7y ago
  Keybase (linked in their profile) is a messaging service too.
  - umanwizard 7y ago
    Good point

falcolas 7y ago

Those folks have been around forever, and I'm thankful for them. Not for my own sake, but because my mother had 3-4 miscarriages and one child who died of SIDS (this was in the early 70's). They most likely kept her sane.

0x29A- 7y ago

As father to the best 8 month young man in the world I can't imagine even for a moment what that is like. I never ever comment on hacker news, I just wanted to say I'm deeply sorry anyone here may have lost their child.

cdolan 7y ago
On Oct 4 a friend (code name “Paul”) and I were at a viewing for our 25 year old friend who passed from falling while hiking. “Paul” and I both have boys born this year (5-6 months old). After attending the viewing, we both noted how sad it was to watch the father and mother in such a terrible situation. The worst for any parent, and somehow slightly more understandable now that we are parents ourselves. That night his son passed away silently in his sleep - Not even 12 hours since we talked at the viewing about how surreal losing a child would be. Their baby simply stopped breathing. We’re all still in some level of shock. Hug your little ones and appreciate the time you get with them. You never know when your life can go the other direction.
- fghorow 7y ago
  That is utterly tragic. Please be good to "Paul", and do not expect him to "get over it" anytime soon. It doesn't work like that in my experience. If he and family are ready for it, perhaps mentioning The Compassionate Friends -- along with its link I've posted elsewhere in this page -- might be gratefully received? My local chapter is wonderful, and has kept my wife and I as sane as we are after losing our (only) son. May peace be unto "Paul".
  - cdolan 7y ago
    Thanks. I know my friends will never get over it. My wife had a sister that passed at 6 months old from a heart issue and my MiL said exactly that (“they’ll never forget its always with you every hour of every day”). If you don’t mind my asking what part of the world are you in?

umanwizard 7y ago

FYI, Hacker News doesn’t have a DM feature.

klyrs 7y ago
Keybase (linked in their profile) is a messaging service too.
- umanwizard 7y ago
  Good point