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I feel like there is a sort of dominance game at work, not necessarily just with anger but other moods too. I've noticed if someone is angry or depressed, he/sh
by kylek 7y ago
I feel like there is a sort of dominance game at work, not necessarily just with anger but other moods too. I've noticed if someone is angry or depressed, he/she will try to bring everyone around them "down to their level" (and if you're immune, you'll be ignored). I might just be sensitive to it now since I've been thinking about this for a while, but sighing or other attention-seeking behaviors (whistling triggers me) are huge tips that someone is trying to take over and shift the mood. Often people do it subconsciously, and others around them react subconsciously as well.
- DenisM 7y agoSome of them might be fishing to compassion, but I know what you mean generally. I suspect that people generally try to fit their idea of the world to match the world itself, but on some issues they hate it so much they would rather change the world to match their desires, or barring that, change their perception of the world. The latter requires systematic eradication of contradicting evidence, hence the result you're observing - convincing people who can be convinced and ghosting out the rest.
- jacobolus 7y ago> whistling triggers me Try not to judge people (especially kids) who hum or whistle or drum their fingers or tap their feet etc. It is not necessarily a voluntary or conscious behavior, and often has nothing to do with attention seeking or other people at all (folks who do this will keep doing it even when alone).
- kylek 7y agoKids I don't mind. What came to mind when I said this were a couple of whistlers in the last open office I worked in. I honestly couldn't tell if they were completely unaware of their surroundings, or if they actually were putting down all their chips in the psychological dominance game I mentioned.