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I respect that attitude, but I do wonder if the authorities might decide to take my kid away from me I try that with my kid (after I become a parent). Attitudes

I respect that attitude, but I do wonder if the authorities might decide to take my kid away from me I try that with my kid (after I become a parent). Attitudes are a bit restrictive in many big cities.

annoyingnoob 7y ago
To be fair, I live a suburban area that is relatively safe. We have clean sidewalks and almost no one using them. I started letting them go to the corner, they had to respect not going further and coming back when I asked. Then to the mailboxes around the corner, they would get the mail. Then around the block. It was a progression based on trust and mutual respect.
dsfyu404ed 7y ago
I have no fear that they'll take them away. They won't. It might suck up some time and money in court if they double down on being stupid but they won't get to take them in the end. It's my life being gone through with a fine tooth comb by the state as part of that process that I don't want to risk.
ddingus 7y ago
I grew up that way and simply took my own where they could free range. No way would I tolerate it being otherwise. The value to the child is immense! Just one example: during a crisis time, or disaster, who do you want as peers? I will take the free ranged humans any day. They will have some sense of what "do what it takes" actually means, and few enough boundaries so as to stand a chance of applying it successfully.
sethammons 7y ago
A colleague at work was working from home, watching his kid play across the street at the park. A busybody reported it and the family was slapped with negligence and lost custody of their kid for a short while and had to prove to a judge that they are capable parents.
dragonwriter 7y ago
> Attitudes are a bit restrictive in many big cities. Almost all the horror stories I hear about hyperactive reports to and, even moreso, actual enforcement action by, child welfare agencies are from the suburbs, but big cities.

annoyingnoob 7y ago

To be fair, I live a suburban area that is relatively safe. We have clean sidewalks and almost no one using them. I started letting them go to the corner, they had to respect not going further and coming back when I asked. Then to the mailboxes around the corner, they would get the mail. Then around the block. It was a progression based on trust and mutual respect.

dsfyu404ed 7y ago

I have no fear that they'll take them away. They won't. It might suck up some time and money in court if they double down on being stupid but they won't get to take them in the end. It's my life being gone through with a fine tooth comb by the state as part of that process that I don't want to risk.

ddingus 7y ago

I grew up that way and simply took my own where they could free range. No way would I tolerate it being otherwise. The value to the child is immense! Just one example: during a crisis time, or disaster, who do you want as peers? I will take the free ranged humans any day. They will have some sense of what "do what it takes" actually means, and few enough boundaries so as to stand a chance of applying it successfully.

sethammons 7y ago

A colleague at work was working from home, watching his kid play across the street at the park. A busybody reported it and the family was slapped with negligence and lost custody of their kid for a short while and had to prove to a judge that they are capable parents.

dragonwriter 7y ago

> Attitudes are a bit restrictive in many big cities. Almost all the horror stories I hear about hyperactive reports to and, even moreso, actual enforcement action by, child welfare agencies are from the suburbs, but big cities.