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This is the correct answer. That feeling of empty pointlessness is because the drive to have kids is not being satisfied. User "volument" here is suffering an e

This is the correct answer. That feeling of empty pointlessness is because the drive to have kids is not being satisfied. User "volument" here is suffering an existential crisis. I have 12 kids. They depend on me. There is always something going on. Even the bad things have an upside of removing boredom. There is no time for television. Tomorrow, on Saturday, I will be homeschooling AP Chemistry. Three kids have to go to college classes, and six kids need to sign up for spring semester. Little ones need to learn reading and math. The baby is extra cute and fun to play with. There is grocery shopping to do, sometimes 4 carts at a time.

Ancalagon 7y ago
12 wow props to you. What does your monthly budget look like and how do you expect to pay for college for all 12??
- souprock 7y ago
  It's about $4000 for food. It's been a while since I looked at the rest. The house and cars are paid off. I don't expect to pay for college for all 12. They start dual-enrollment as early as 12, with the school district paying for books and tuition, so a college degree can be had for the cost of commuting and trivial fees. Normally that would be just an AA degree (the few 4-year degrees offered locally are lousy), but a couple more years to upgrade it to a BS at UCF isn't terribly expensive. I could just pay it, but it might be better for the kids to solve their own financial problems. Maybe somebody will go into the military, go to a trade school, or be a homemaker. The ones with plans so far have chosen: CPA (maybe), software developer, lawyer (physics undergrad), something medical (physician assistant?), and midwifery.
  - Ancalagon 7y ago
    Got it thanks for the response :). I have a secret dream of having a large family as well, so was just curious how you made it all work.
    - souprock 7y ago
      It helps to be in an affordable area with a software development job. It is then possible to have one parent stay at home. I'm near Melbourne, FL.
postsantum 7y ago
What if they follow your advice and it wasn't the reason? Now instead of one bored person you have several unhappy ones. I am sure a good chunk of the fathers who are still "looking for the right pack of cigarettes" had a similar idea
xsmasher 7y ago
This may be the wrong answer. That feeling of empty pointlessness is because SOME drive is not being satisfied, but it might be completely unrelated to having children.

Ancalagon 7y ago

12 wow props to you. What does your monthly budget look like and how do you expect to pay for college for all 12??

souprock 7y ago
It's about $4000 for food. It's been a while since I looked at the rest. The house and cars are paid off. I don't expect to pay for college for all 12. They start dual-enrollment as early as 12, with the school district paying for books and tuition, so a college degree can be had for the cost of commuting and trivial fees. Normally that would be just an AA degree (the few 4-year degrees offered locally are lousy), but a couple more years to upgrade it to a BS at UCF isn't terribly expensive. I could just pay it, but it might be better for the kids to solve their own financial problems. Maybe somebody will go into the military, go to a trade school, or be a homemaker. The ones with plans so far have chosen: CPA (maybe), software developer, lawyer (physics undergrad), something medical (physician assistant?), and midwifery.
- Ancalagon 7y ago
  Got it thanks for the response :). I have a secret dream of having a large family as well, so was just curious how you made it all work.
  - souprock 7y ago
    It helps to be in an affordable area with a software development job. It is then possible to have one parent stay at home. I'm near Melbourne, FL.

postsantum 7y ago

What if they follow your advice and it wasn't the reason? Now instead of one bored person you have several unhappy ones. I am sure a good chunk of the fathers who are still "looking for the right pack of cigarettes" had a similar idea

xsmasher 7y ago

This may be the wrong answer. That feeling of empty pointlessness is because SOME drive is not being satisfied, but it might be completely unrelated to having children.