I have had cats my entire life (well maybe if I add up all of the time without cats for various reasons it would add to a year... but close enough). I can't te

I have had cats my entire life (well maybe if I add up all of the time without cats for various reasons it would add to a year... but close enough). I can't tell you how often I will go to a friends place and they tell me the cat hates people, and half an hour later they are in my lap sleeping, or laying next to me. A lot of people misunderstand how to act around cats. I see people chase them around the house, jump right at them with all this energy, and then get upset when they jump away that the cat is "mean". No... the cat just clearly does not like what you are doing to them. In my experience, you have to be slow. Let them come to you if they want, but don't force it. Every cat is different though, and you can't treat them all the same. Have I met truly indifferent cats, of course. They exist and I will never deny that they do. How much of that is based on people not knowing how to properly socialize them as kittens is an open question for me though.