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"Family problems, leaving school, bad boss, bad partner, spiteful interviewer, health/injury problems" Ruthlessly competitive people are affected by all of tho

by debt 7y ago

"Family problems, leaving school, bad boss, bad partner, spiteful interviewer, health/injury problems" Ruthlessly competitive people are affected by all of those things. But because they're ruthlessly competitive, they usually won't allow those things to set them back. Now, you don't have to be ruthlessly competitive, but you should at least be aware that other people are, so don't think they'll be set back by the same things that set you back.

anbotero 7y ago
I actually thought it was weird OP mentioned those things, even when they are exactly prime example of the people the article and many of us are talking about. You see them, for example, at College/University (in my country, at least): They are single and have to keep their parents so they have to work at the same time as they study; or they have families so they have to go to night/weekends school and they manage to overachieve and graduate while working and having that family; I have a friend with short arms, like a T-rex, and he works right next to me (he sets up his own environment so it’s more ergonomic for him), and he goes to parties, drinks, plays soccer with us and he has a family. My own experiences are not that... how to say it, bold, but I have my fair share of setbacks, but when you see these people, and while they are not the majority, at least here in my country you see a lot of them. Some of us suffer health or family problems, but at some point you realize that's life and simply try to tackle such issues however you can while keeping sanity. The first examples I mentioned... I don’t know how they do it, but I guess that’s what the article is trying to say.
jl2718 7y ago
I actually agree with this. You can steamroll a lot of problems if you never depend on other people for anything, truly don't care about people that need you, and can't be distracted from your mission. However, it seems this not the typical "high-achiever" game of institutionalized low-risk resume and relationship building. This is the high-risk "ultra-achiever" game of household-name superlatives like Jeff Bezos, Floyd Mayweather, and the like. Of the people I know personally that made it big as entrepreneurs and athletes, it was a major setback that started their success by knocking them out of a game they were losing. They were the ones that could let go of it and do something else, over and over. Others with the same setbacks ended up dead.

by debt 7y ago

anbotero 7y ago

I actually thought it was weird OP mentioned those things, even when they are exactly prime example of the people the article and many of us are talking about. You see them, for example, at College/University (in my country, at least): They are single and have to keep their parents so they have to work at the same time as they study; or they have families so they have to go to night/weekends school and they manage to overachieve and graduate while working and having that family; I have a friend with short arms, like a T-rex, and he works right next to me (he sets up his own environment so it’s more ergonomic for him), and he goes to parties, drinks, plays soccer with us and he has a family. My own experiences are not that... how to say it, bold, but I have my fair share of setbacks, but when you see these people, and while they are not the majority, at least here in my country you see a lot of them. Some of us suffer health or family problems, but at some point you realize that's life and simply try to tackle such issues however you can while keeping sanity. The first examples I mentioned... I don’t know how they do it, but I guess that’s what the article is trying to say.

jl2718 7y ago

I actually agree with this. You can steamroll a lot of problems if you never depend on other people for anything, truly don't care about people that need you, and can't be distracted from your mission. However, it seems this not the typical "high-achiever" game of institutionalized low-risk resume and relationship building. This is the high-risk "ultra-achiever" game of household-name superlatives like Jeff Bezos, Floyd Mayweather, and the like. Of the people I know personally that made it big as entrepreneurs and athletes, it was a major setback that started their success by knocking them out of a game they were losing. They were the ones that could let go of it and do something else, over and over. Others with the same setbacks ended up dead.