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I agree failure is a failure but not that it's bad. Failure is neither good nor bad by itself. I think it's important to learn that a failure is not a reason to
by 8ytecoder 7y ago
I agree failure is a failure but not that it's bad. Failure is neither good nor bad by itself. I think it's important to learn that a failure is not a reason to hate yourself - which is what usually feeds the depression. It's not constructive to dwell on the failure. It's necessary in fact to find out what the learning is and then see what strategies exist to minimize harm. That's not glorifying it in anyway. Falling down, for example, is not a beautiful thing but it's imperative to learn to get up - otherwise, what's the alternative? The article seem to make the claim that setbacks train your mind to accept failure as part of the process and not treat it any differently. What's wrong in that? There's no need to be a contrarian in everything.
- nishantvyas 7y ago+1. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.” - Dr Brene Brown. Failure treated as a guilt may lead to learning and be fixed, but if treated as Shame may lead to depression.
- TuringNYC 7y agoI get your point, but this is a bit simplistic. One also has to realize when a game is full out rigged — you did your best (perhaps the best) and you still failed because perhaps success wasn’t allowed for you. Then you need to learn to play a different game. Sort of like when college failures end up as leaders and go into tell everyone to work hard because obviously that is what is stopping everyone else /s