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Please stop throwing around meaningless generalizations and banalities about "silos" and "comfort zones". > Your coworkers with stop helping you because you "d

Please stop throwing around meaningless generalizations and banalities about "silos" and "comfort zones". > Your coworkers with stop helping you because you "didn't go to lunch with them, :sad_face:"! haha that's so silly, so naive, so sentimental! We are not children. And your office is not a playground. We are professional adults in a professional setting. > If someone regards you as a "friend", they are much more likely to extend you some grace Your co-workers are not your friends. Learn the difference, you are not Michael Scott (I hope).

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I prefer to work with professionals who also happen to be my friends (or at least friendly acquaintances who know each other's names). "Professionalism" doesn't have to be an impersonal facade that people hide behind. Work is all about meeting commitments and earning money, sure, but at the end of the day, we are all people, and people have feelings and frustrations. They have things they love and hate. They like being acknowledged and appreciated. This doesn't mean they are children and that the office is a playground free-for-all, though. It just means that your offices are going to be full of people. People who, for better or worse, are often just trying to make ends meet, and are going through the motions at a job they barely stand. I think you would be surprised at what a difference a little empathy, kindness, and friendliness in the workplace can do for a company's success, and also for your own career success (if you try it out). As a side note, one of the things that really opened my eyes to a lot of this was from reading Dale Carnegie's famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People". I highly recommend reading it, if you ever get the chance. I might have an extra copy that I would be willing to lend you, if you are curious?

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I prefer to work with professionals who also happen to be my friends (or at least friendly acquaintances who know each other's names). "Professionalism" doesn't have to be an impersonal facade that people hide behind. Work is all about meeting commitments and earning money, sure, but at the end of the day, we are all people, and people have feelings and frustrations. They have things they love and hate. They like being acknowledged and appreciated. This doesn't mean they are children and that the office is a playground free-for-all, though. It just means that your offices are going to be full of people. People who, for better or worse, are often just trying to make ends meet, and are going through the motions at a job they barely stand. I think you would be surprised at what a difference a little empathy, kindness, and friendliness in the workplace can do for a company's success, and also for your own career success (if you try it out). As a side note, one of the things that really opened my eyes to a lot of this was from reading Dale Carnegie's famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People". I highly recommend reading it, if you ever get the chance. I might have an extra copy that I would be willing to lend you, if you are curious?