we use zombodb https://www.zombodb.com/ https://www.zombodb.com/ to keep ES and Postgresql in sync, it has its flaws but when it works it works perfectly. That

we use zombodb https://www.zombodb.com/ https://www.zombodb.com/ to keep ES and Postgresql in sync, it has its flaws but when it works it works perfectly. That at least helps with 1 and 3, which are indeed a major annoyances.