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> I suggest you start a journal, explore your own past experiences and try to figure out what went wrong and why and why you still blame yourself so much all th

> I suggest you start a journal, explore your own past experiences and try to figure out what went wrong and why and why you still blame yourself so much all these years later such that you need to project your fears onto your daughter and can't trust her to have better sense than you had. I though maybe your previous post was a one-off but nope, you really are coming across as condescending. Hopefully by pointing out passages people are likely to find condescending and off-putting you can figure out how to tone that down so it doesn't get people's backs up and drown your message.

dang 7y ago
Please don't cross into personal attack on HN. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- concordDance 7y ago
  Hmm... Took me a second to figure out what the personal attack was. Editted post. Is it better now?
  - dang 7y ago
    I appreciate the good intention, but it's still unsubstantive and needlessly personal. If you get to the point of posting about how condescending someone else is, you've left the path of the guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. It's also just off topic and uninteresting.
    - concordDance 7y ago
      So posts that just point out potential condescension are not welcome here? Do you know if that would also apply if it was part of a larger on-topic post? It's just irritating to see the condescension and repeated imputing of motives of other commentators go unchallenged. It's rude and disrespectful. Does HN have some other mechanism than peer commentary for dealing with rudeness?
      - dang 7y ago
        Sure. We spend days and often also evenings asking users here not to be rude. We can't come close to seeing all the comments, though. If there's a post that you feel particularly deserved moderation and we missed it, the likeliest explanation is that we didn't see it. You can always let us know by flagging the comment (see https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html#cflag https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html#cflag) or by emailing hn@ycombinator.com. If you're going to react to rudeness and so on by posting replies in the thread, though, it's important to do it in a way that doesn't break the guidelines yourself. Otherwise this place just gets worse.

dang 7y ago

Please don't cross into personal attack on HN. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

concordDance 7y ago
Hmm... Took me a second to figure out what the personal attack was. Editted post. Is it better now?
- dang 7y ago
  I appreciate the good intention, but it's still unsubstantive and needlessly personal. If you get to the point of posting about how condescending someone else is, you've left the path of the guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. It's also just off topic and uninteresting.
  - concordDance 7y ago
    So posts that just point out potential condescension are not welcome here? Do you know if that would also apply if it was part of a larger on-topic post? It's just irritating to see the condescension and repeated imputing of motives of other commentators go unchallenged. It's rude and disrespectful. Does HN have some other mechanism than peer commentary for dealing with rudeness?
    - dang 7y ago
      Sure. We spend days and often also evenings asking users here not to be rude. We can't come close to seeing all the comments, though. If there's a post that you feel particularly deserved moderation and we missed it, the likeliest explanation is that we didn't see it. You can always let us know by flagging the comment (see https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html#cflag https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html#cflag) or by emailing hn@ycombinator.com. If you're going to react to rudeness and so on by posting replies in the thread, though, it's important to do it in a way that doesn't break the guidelines yourself. Otherwise this place just gets worse.