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I have to say, your comments are always some of the most insightful ones I've ever read on this site. Thanks for writing them.

DoreenMichele 7y ago
If only people would pay me to write comments on HN, then my life would suddenly work. Sadly, that's not a viable career.
- concordDance 7y ago
  Well the sample of your comments I have noticed on HN (you have a somewhat distinct self-pitying writing style and constantly mention your gender) are below average quality. But that could be due to a rather biased sample of less than 10 (as I will have only noticed your comments in that style, not other comments you might make).
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- TeMPOraL 7y ago
  It would be totally against the spirit of HN, but hypothetically, if you had a Patreon for HN comments, you'd have at least one patron here. I agree and second 'pcwalton here. I don't always agree with what you write, but I always appreciate seeing it here, you have one of the best insight to comment length ratio.
  - DoreenMichele 7y ago
    I actually do have a Patreon account. I have no plans whatsoever to describe it as being about posting on HN, but you wouldn't be the first. I already have a Patreon supporter who made it clear they were kicking in money because of my comments on HN, not because of any of my blog writing per se. I suppose I should say "Thank you." I'm actually quite uncomfortable with public praise. I have moderating experience and my observation is that trying to be well-mannered and say "Thank you" or otherwise acknowledge such praise tends to cause a rebound reaction where someone feels a need to counter it with some kind of personal attack (something that's already happened here in fact). It also seems to do bad things to the group dynamic. So I've long had a policy of studiously ignoring public praise as the least worst thing I can do. But that seems to make me standoffish, which causes other problems. Some things seem to have no actually good answer, especially in public spaces. Anything you post publicly will be interpreted differently by different people. When the group is large enough, that easily turns into a push-pull dynamic as the group tries to sort out which side "wins" the argument. I thoroughly hate that to the depths of my soul. My background is participating in online support groups. My belief is that if ten people reply to a question, you should have ten different answers that add information, not one that is "For X" and nine more that vehemently argue about being for or against X. X should have little or nothing to do with the other nine answers. So my writing style is based on shooting for statements that stand on their own and actively seek to avoid that nonsense. No one has to agree with me. I'm not trying to win an argument. I'm just trying to explain a point of view as clearly as possible and put out a piece of information as best I understand it. Overall, I'm mostly happy with my writing style, though I continue to try to find ways to improve it. "There's always room at the top." You can always find ways to make it better rather than resting on your laurels and stroking your ego.
notzuck 7y ago
Read the rest of what she said. Trying to claim it's my childhood issues that i'm projecting onto my children etc. Not only is that not true but she's jumping straight to blame. Please be careful following her parenting advice, scratch below the surface and it's not that good.

DoreenMichele 7y ago

If only people would pay me to write comments on HN, then my life would suddenly work. Sadly, that's not a viable career.

concordDance 7y ago
Well the sample of your comments I have noticed on HN (you have a somewhat distinct self-pitying writing style and constantly mention your gender) are below average quality. But that could be due to a rather biased sample of less than 10 (as I will have only noticed your comments in that style, not other comments you might make).
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TeMPOraL 7y ago
It would be totally against the spirit of HN, but hypothetically, if you had a Patreon for HN comments, you'd have at least one patron here. I agree and second 'pcwalton here. I don't always agree with what you write, but I always appreciate seeing it here, you have one of the best insight to comment length ratio.
- DoreenMichele 7y ago
  I actually do have a Patreon account. I have no plans whatsoever to describe it as being about posting on HN, but you wouldn't be the first. I already have a Patreon supporter who made it clear they were kicking in money because of my comments on HN, not because of any of my blog writing per se. I suppose I should say "Thank you." I'm actually quite uncomfortable with public praise. I have moderating experience and my observation is that trying to be well-mannered and say "Thank you" or otherwise acknowledge such praise tends to cause a rebound reaction where someone feels a need to counter it with some kind of personal attack (something that's already happened here in fact). It also seems to do bad things to the group dynamic. So I've long had a policy of studiously ignoring public praise as the least worst thing I can do. But that seems to make me standoffish, which causes other problems. Some things seem to have no actually good answer, especially in public spaces. Anything you post publicly will be interpreted differently by different people. When the group is large enough, that easily turns into a push-pull dynamic as the group tries to sort out which side "wins" the argument. I thoroughly hate that to the depths of my soul. My background is participating in online support groups. My belief is that if ten people reply to a question, you should have ten different answers that add information, not one that is "For X" and nine more that vehemently argue about being for or against X. X should have little or nothing to do with the other nine answers. So my writing style is based on shooting for statements that stand on their own and actively seek to avoid that nonsense. No one has to agree with me. I'm not trying to win an argument. I'm just trying to explain a point of view as clearly as possible and put out a piece of information as best I understand it. Overall, I'm mostly happy with my writing style, though I continue to try to find ways to improve it. "There's always room at the top." You can always find ways to make it better rather than resting on your laurels and stroking your ego.

notzuck 7y ago

Read the rest of what she said. Trying to claim it's my childhood issues that i'm projecting onto my children etc. Not only is that not true but she's jumping straight to blame. Please be careful following her parenting advice, scratch below the surface and it's not that good.