Beware of expressing built-up anger. Contrary to mainstream thought, it can be a really big problem in various areas of your life, especially your interpersonal

Beware of expressing built-up anger. Contrary to mainstream thought, it can be a really big problem in various areas of your life, especially your interpersonal relations. Usually, the real cause of the anger evades us (that's why we've so much of it built up), and we can't express it constructively (if that's possible at all). A big realization for me was that even though I feet somewhat better letting my lid blow off and unloading on a person, it's very destructive (before I persistently ignored that, justifying my anger as righteous), and it's not a treatment for what caused it. I guess if I had to summarize my realization in one sentence, I'd say that I realized that there were things I didn't want to acknowledge and feelings about myself and others that I wanted to push out of myself, and that this resistance was what caused the inner turmoil and anger. When I started consciously trying to stay with the "bad" feelings, instead of reject them, things started to change.