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they expect others to change behavior to adapt to themselves, but refuse to change their own behavior That is something that is always overlooked. What about t
by goatinaboat 7y ago
they expect others to change behavior to adapt to themselves, but refuse to change their own behavior
That is something that is always overlooked. What about the mental health of the rest of the team who are expected to just smile when someone is obnoxiously rude to them over and over and over again? With no recourse to report it to HR?
Every “aspie” probably actively harms the mental health of a dozen ordinary people, but that’s invisible.
- rhizome 7y ago>the rest of the team who are expected to just smile when someone is obnoxiously rude to them over and over and over again Is that really a thing that happens?
- FartyMcFarter 7y agoIt's not always that extreme, since aspies can learn to improve their behaviour. But in my experience, even after some improvement there are still cases where they get away with behaviour that would cause more trouble to other people.
- x220 7y ago>Every “aspie” probably actively harms the mental health of a dozen ordinary people, but that’s invisible Replace "aspie" with "black man" and your entire response is blatantly prejudiced. In my experience this is a boogieman people fear will crawl out from under their bed at night. All but one of the autistic ("aspie" is outdated) people I know understand their shortcomings and adapt as best as they can. There will always be assholes in every group; if you're not prejudiced, you judge the asshole rather than stereotyping the entire group. Nearly all autistic people know they act weird and would like to act normal but don't know how. You have to weigh the costs and benefits. What's worse: you are occasionally made uncomfortable, or an autistic person gets fired? Are you willing to make no compromise in this conflict with coworkers? If so, it would be hypocritical.
- goatinaboat 7y agoReplace "aspie" with "black man" and your entire response is blatantly prejudiced. Not remotely comparable unless you are implying that black people “expect others to change behavior to adapt to themselves, but refuse to change their own behavior” which by the way is pretty racist.
- gbear605 7y agoThey’re comparable because neither autistic people nor black people “expect others to change behavior to adapt to themselves, but refuse to change their own behavior.”
- lr4444lr 7y agoThere is nothing inherent to the pseudoscientific divisions of people by race. Autism is a medical diagnosis. The OP was in the wrong to say "Every Aspie", but let's not dig this hole deeper.
- Nimitz14 7y agoDefinitely. As someone with a father on the spectrum the current trend of "Autism acceptance" drives me nuts.
- NohatCoder 7y agoI have worked with a lot of people with Asperger's over several years, I don't recall anyone but neurotypicals being rude to me. While I'm sure there are rude people with Asperger's out there, rude neurotypicals can potentially be damaging in a far more efficient manner by knowing how to twist the social norms to give the pretence of staying within their boundaries.