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I've always felt like people after 60 calm way the fuck down. They're done, over it, just trying to take it slow and enjoy life. I had a job selling newspaper

I've always felt like people after 60 calm way the fuck down. They're done, over it, just trying to take it slow and enjoy life. I had a job selling newspaper subscriptions door-to-door when I was young (like 15ish), the thing I noticed was that grumpy people are normally in the mid-30s to mid-50s range. I worked that job for 9 months (it was awful) and I would talk to upwards of 30 people a night, 4-5 nights a week. What I noticed (and this is all anecdotal), 30's-mid 40's women were always very polite and would make time if they had it, men in that range were extremely rude and had little patience for a solicitor. Mid-40's to 60 the roles reversed, women would be a lot ruder, but the men would be nicer and almost had an appreciation that I was hustling and would make some time for me. Over 60, most women and men were pretty laid back and accommodating if they had the time.

icebraining 7y ago
Could be a generational thing, though.
sizzle 7y ago
30's typically are settling down years and might have a young kid or crying newborn keeping them steadily sleep deprived and agitated if I had to guess what was behind you observation for that age group.
- asveikau 7y ago
  My experience with raising kids is that you develop more compassion, empathy, forgiveness, giving people room to make mistakes and correct them -- extended towards people outside your family too. It's all very humbling. But I am sometimes surprised when people tell me that's not a universal feeling. At some point I came across some study claiming to show that it made people less trusting of people outside of family.
maire 7y ago
Your observation is definitely correct. I took care of my mother until she passed away at 90. When she was young she never relaxed about anything. I think this was because of growing up during the great depression. When she came to live with us she became very sweet and child like in her outlook. I think it was because she trusted us and felt she could relax. I feel sorry for my sisters because they only knew her middle years and never saw the person I saw.

icebraining 7y ago

Could be a generational thing, though.

sizzle 7y ago

30's typically are settling down years and might have a young kid or crying newborn keeping them steadily sleep deprived and agitated if I had to guess what was behind you observation for that age group.

asveikau 7y ago
My experience with raising kids is that you develop more compassion, empathy, forgiveness, giving people room to make mistakes and correct them -- extended towards people outside your family too. It's all very humbling. But I am sometimes surprised when people tell me that's not a universal feeling. At some point I came across some study claiming to show that it made people less trusting of people outside of family.

maire 7y ago

Your observation is definitely correct. I took care of my mother until she passed away at 90. When she was young she never relaxed about anything. I think this was because of growing up during the great depression. When she came to live with us she became very sweet and child like in her outlook. I think it was because she trusted us and felt she could relax. I feel sorry for my sisters because they only knew her middle years and never saw the person I saw.