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It is strange how people always associate domestic work with women, or something women are not compensated for. I know I do a lot of domestic work that my wife
by epx 7y ago
It is strange how people always associate domestic work with women, or something women are not compensated for.
I know I do a lot of domestic work that my wife barely knows needs to be done, or assumes it's trivial, or assumes "you are intelligent/strong/used to/a XY warm body, so it's easy for you". And it mostly consists of things that cannot be outsourced (perhaps a butler or secretary would help, but these are more expensive than a maid).
Honestly I don't know who the hell falls for this kind of narrative.
- foobar1962 7y ago> Honestly I don't know who the hell falls for this kind of narrative. At least 50% of the population, I'd wager.
- Mirioron 7y agoI think you bring up an interesting point. In a discussion about household work, I've never actually heard a discussion about the types of things that men are just expected to do without anybody batting an eye. It makes sense that usually a man would be the one to bring up the 50 kg sack of potatoes to the 3rd floor apartment, but I've never actually heard this point being made that men also have some expectations placed on them in the household. It's always just summarized as "earn money, open jars, reach high places".
- raarts 7y agoI never thought of family care as something that needs to be paid. Should I pay my wife for doing that work? In that case should she pay me for shouldering the burden of working hard in a job I don't like making money I don't spend myself? All this doesn't sit well with me. It's too individualistic.
- epx 7y agoThe law accommodates for that - 50% of the assets for each in case of divorce. Guaranteed not to be fair for most particular cases, but puts an end to the discussion, and everybody knows the deal before marrying.