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This sensitivity is probably due to the fact that, as a culture, women to do a bit more of the child-rearing, and they want things to be easy for their sons. Wo
by jen_h 7y ago
This sensitivity is probably due to the fact that, as a culture, women to do a bit more of the child-rearing, and they want things to be easy for their sons. Women see themselves in their daughters and daughter-in-laws, and are harder on them for it.
If a married man is dressed poorly, it's his wife's fault. If a married woman is dressed poorly, who in their right mind would blame her husband?
It's crazy the expectations we put on men and women and how differently-loaded they are...we as a society typically have such low expectations of men, some people don't think men can handle a 9-5 job AND a single load of laundry or changing a diaper, which is totally insulting. We say it's too hard for them to do both...and then we put them in charge of everything.
It's no wonder we're in the messes we're in.
- xenihn 7y ago>If a married man is dressed poorly, it's his wife's fault. If a married woman is dressed poorly, who in their right mind would blame her husband? I've always let my girlfriends pick out clothes for me because they care way more about how I dress than I do.
- jen_h 7y agoProves my point -- your girlfriends are judged much more harshly for how you're dressed than you yourself are -- which is silly, absolutely ridiculous. I'm assuming you're a grown man, right? Why does it make sense that people would judge your girlfriend for your attire and not you, a man who presumably dressed himself? It's nuts.
- xenihn 7y agoWho said anyone else is judging me or my partner? And why are you assuming that anyone is judging either of us? Just because someone believes something is happening doesn't make it reality.
- Mirioron 7y agoBut couldn't part of this be that judging him for it won't actually change anything? If a guy doesn't really care about how he's dressed then you can judge him as much as you want, but he'll still keep on dressing the same way. Social pressure only works if people care about it. And somebody else above mentioned that people are very good at picking out others who bend to social pressure.
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