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Study after study show that women rate the majority of men as unattractive whereas the scale is pretty balanced for men’s views of women attractiveness. In gene

Study after study show that women rate the majority of men as unattractive whereas the scale is pretty balanced for men’s views of women attractiveness. In general, there’s no longer social or religious pressure for people to pair off so women flat out don’t pick those unattractive men. Women are the selectors. Men tend to take whatever they can get.

EliRivers 7y ago
I see unattractive men getting married every day.
- ronnier 7y ago
  It’s a generality, not a solid rule. The statics show this.
  - EliRivers 7y ago
    So there's no reason for any one individual to look at these statistics and from them deduce that there's no point even trying? If they're just generalities and unattractive men routinely beat these odds, anyone choosing to drop out of the market has only themself to blame. SF; where people can be convinced they'll beat incredible odds and become tech millionaires (billionaires), but give up on dating because the odds are slightly against them. These are the same people who buy lottery tickets but forego seatbelts, presumably.
    - username90 7y ago
      Men typically don't date to find a marriage partner, they date to get sex. Saying that unattractive men have good chances to find a wife doesn't solve the problem unattractive men have getting casual sex. There are of course some men who date to find a wife and most men will do that at some point in their lives, but they are drowned out by all the men desperate for sex.
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- username90 7y ago
  Marriage prospects has very little to do with dating prospects. The reason is that men want more casual sex on population levels so relatively few attractive men can supply most women leaving the rest out, but for marriage each man gets paired with one woman forcing women to settle with "unattractive men".
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MrsPeaches 7y ago
Do you have a source for this? Any decent meta-analyses?
- big_chungus 7y ago
  I believe these are the data to which he is referring. Published by okcupid, which is probably one of the better data-sets which you could hope for, given the topic. http://web.archive.org/web/20170307114500/https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e http://web.archive.org/web/20170307114500/https://theblog.ok...
- faissaloo 7y ago
  I believe they were referring to this OkCupid study: https://web.archive.org/web/20180419093226/https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e?gi=7f419beaa0b9 https://web.archive.org/web/20180419093226/https://theblog.o...

EliRivers 7y ago

I see unattractive men getting married every day.

ronnier 7y ago
It’s a generality, not a solid rule. The statics show this.
- EliRivers 7y ago
  So there's no reason for any one individual to look at these statistics and from them deduce that there's no point even trying? If they're just generalities and unattractive men routinely beat these odds, anyone choosing to drop out of the market has only themself to blame. SF; where people can be convinced they'll beat incredible odds and become tech millionaires (billionaires), but give up on dating because the odds are slightly against them. These are the same people who buy lottery tickets but forego seatbelts, presumably.
  - username90 7y ago
    Men typically don't date to find a marriage partner, they date to get sex. Saying that unattractive men have good chances to find a wife doesn't solve the problem unattractive men have getting casual sex. There are of course some men who date to find a wife and most men will do that at some point in their lives, but they are drowned out by all the men desperate for sex.
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username90 7y ago
Marriage prospects has very little to do with dating prospects. The reason is that men want more casual sex on population levels so relatively few attractive men can supply most women leaving the rest out, but for marriage each man gets paired with one woman forcing women to settle with "unattractive men".

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MrsPeaches 7y ago

Do you have a source for this? Any decent meta-analyses?

big_chungus 7y ago
I believe these are the data to which he is referring. Published by okcupid, which is probably one of the better data-sets which you could hope for, given the topic. http://web.archive.org/web/20170307114500/https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e http://web.archive.org/web/20170307114500/https://theblog.ok...
faissaloo 7y ago
I believe they were referring to this OkCupid study: https://web.archive.org/web/20180419093226/https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e?gi=7f419beaa0b9 https://web.archive.org/web/20180419093226/https://theblog.o...