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"But most days, if you’re aware enough to give yourself a choice, you can choose to look differently at this fat, dead-eyed, over-made-up lady who just screamed
by davinic 7y ago
"But most days, if you’re aware enough to give yourself a choice, you can choose to look differently at this fat, dead-eyed, over-made-up lady who just screamed at her kid in the checkout line. Maybe she’s not usually like this. Maybe she’s been up three straight nights holding the hand of a husband who is dying of bone cancer. Or maybe this very lady is the low-wage clerk at the motor vehicle department, who just yesterday helped your spouse resolve a horrific, infuriating, red-tape problem through some small act of bureaucratic kindness. Of course, none of this is likely, but it’s also not impossible. It just depends what you want to consider. If you’re automatically sure that you know what reality is, and you are operating on your default setting, then you, like me, probably won’t consider possibilities that aren’t annoying and miserable. But if you really learn how to pay attention, then you will know there are other options. It will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, hot, slow, consumer-hell type situation as not only meaningful, but sacred, on fire with the same force that made the stars: love, fellowship, the mystical oneness of all things deep down." -- David Foster Wallace, This is Water
https://fs.blog/2012/04/david-foster-wallace-this-is-water/ https://fs.blog/2012/04/david-foster-wallace-this-is-water/
- bigred100 7y agoShe may also be a deranged and unrepentant child abuser who uses whatever societal approval is thrown her way to justify and escalate her abuse. There’s simply no way to know.
- davinic 7y agoYou've missed the point.
- lacampbell 7y agoMaybe they understood the point and disagreed with it.
- mistersquid 7y agoThe point, if such a thing exists, is to accept any and all of those possibilities with equanimity.
- bryanrasmussen 7y agosure, but taking one assumption is to approach from a position of harsh condemnation and the other is to approach from a position of possible forgiveness.
- bigred100 7y agoSufficiently deranged people take forgiveness as approval and encouragement. It may be good to forgive and may not (at least in your external behavior—going around internally upset all the time is surely not good for anyone regardless). It requires prudence to figure out one way or the other.
- empath75 7y agoHe killed himself.
- hprotagonist 7y agofought the good fight, and then his meds stopped working. are you holding that against him? Does this bear on the wisdom of the advice?
- dang 7y agoPlease don't post unsubstantive comments here.