I actually find the “step-by-step instructions” the least useful part of the nonviolent communication books. I think the most important part of communication, e

I actually find the “step-by-step instructions” the least useful part of the nonviolent communication books. I think the most important part of communication, especially in conflicts, is being genuine and authentic, which is very difficult if you’re following some sort of recipe. I do find NVC extremely helpful as a tool to understand communication and conflicts though. There are many great insights on how conflicts appear and how having an empathic understanding of each other can help resolve them. I’m not sure whether following the steps outlined by the method helps with that though, especially if a person sees the method as a “turnkey solution” to get other people to “behave” rather than trying to do the introspection of why you are bothered by something and to separate what the other person did from how you feel about it.