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>If you want to improve your relationships though, make rule zero "minimize the extent to which you require other people in the world to change." I actually th
by LMYahooTFY 7y ago
>If you want to improve your relationships though, make rule zero "minimize the extent to which you require other people in the world to change."
I actually think this is profoundly awful advice, that gets progressively worse the more intimate the relationship, as a fundamental function of human relationships is accountability.
- humanrebar 7y agoI'd rather not have an intense sit-down over socks. I am not a boor for thinking conversational tricks to manipulate me into tidying up are the opposite of functional intimacy.
- rimliu 7y agoAccountability and a requirement to change are quite orthogonal.
- spunker540 7y agoI don’t get why accountability “requires change”— could you explain?