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Being nice to others is not problem if you do not need anything from them. But if you want to force someone to do what he doesn't want to do, that is a problem.
by nshm 7y ago
Being nice to others is not problem if you do not need anything from them. But if you want to force someone to do what he doesn't want to do, that is a problem. And being empathic doesn't always help.
- MagnumPIG 7y agoThat's what money is for...
- klodolph 7y agoIf you are empathetic it is easier to force people to do something they don’t want. It costs less political capital and you won’t suffer as much of a backlash.
- catalogia 7y ago> 'force people to do something they don’t want.' This is why it unnerves so many people who aren't acclimatized to corporate artificiality.
- klodolph 7y agoIt’s a tool like a hammer. You can use it to do good or bad things. Like any form of communication. At least NVC is better at empowering people to get their needs met, compared to the alternatives.
- catalogia 7y agoAt least you admit NVC is about empowering the NVC user, not something done for the benefit of the NVC receiver.
- klodolph 7y agoDon’t misinterpret my words. But, OF COURSE nonviolent communication empowers the speaker. It’s about articulating the SPEAKER’S observations, feelings, needs, and recommendations and putting them in an order where you can understand the context. If you don’t communicate your feelings to other people, they will find it difficult to empathize with you.
- catalogia 7y agoThe receiver empathizing with the user is not considered by users of NVC as an end in and of itself, but rather a means towards an end. The real objective is getting something from them other than their empathy.
- joshuamorton 7y agoYes, but that's true of any conflict resolution framework. The goal of using NVC isn't to get your way, it's to achieve a mutual understanding. What you do with that understanding is left to the reader.
- dang 7y agoThe combination of empathy and forcing people feels oxymoronic to me. Also, forcing people or even getting them to do something is not in the spirit of NVC, as I understand it.