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Just looking at the examples, these are "Sleazy salesman tips about how to get a person to say 'yes'". Anybody who uses this kind of language needs to be shut

• musicale 7y ago
  They certainly struck me as strategies to coerce compliance, as might be used by annoying sales people, con artists, cult evangelists, political/charity representatives, pick-up artists, etc.. Worse, when there's any power differential (e.g your boss saying any of this stuff to you) then it sounds very unpleasant and dishonest.
  • pfranz 7y ago
    I haven't read the NVC book, but I've read /about/ it. It sounds like it's a great technique for peers, but I'm very glad you brought up that it can come across condescending and manipulative when there's a power differential. Since I often hear this brought up as a management technique and in business settings I'm surprised that part isn't discussed more. Your's (and tangentially the parent) is the only comment I've seen so far mentioning it.
  • megous 7y ago
    Although aimed at parent-child communication (and maybe because of it!) P.E.T. (parent effectiveness training, also a long established book/communication system) is quite good in this regard, when there's a great difference in power between parties. For example an additional thing that it stresses is a bigger need for the person with more power, to identify "who owns the problem", before choosing how to communicate about it and also how to help people make their own decisions/find their own solutions.