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Unfortunately there are a lot of men who will get a woman pregnant, have her take care of the kids, not marry her. He will pay for everything then later after
by gscott 7y ago
Unfortunately there are a lot of men who will get a woman pregnant, have her take care of the kids, not marry her. He will pay for everything then later after the kids are out leave her but she gets nothing because they are not married and everything is in his name. Now she has to start from scratch and is middle aged so she doesn't have a lot of time to build a career, pay into social security, has no savings, etc. Why do men do this? Women fall in love with bad men unfortunately. Once she is already pregnant then he has all of the leverage.
- ryanobjc 7y agoYes this, this is why community property, common law marriages, and alimony exists. To help correct the imbalance of power, and the justice of the situation. The bottom line is raising kids as a stay at home parent is a huge burden. It's entirely unpaid (in money and career). The beneficiaries are both parents. To allow a man (or rich woman, the laws in California are fairly gender neutral here) to accrue the benefits, and disallow the woman any benefits from her sacrifice, well most people consider that to be unfair. And so do the courts.
- tomp 7y ago> Once she is already pregnant then he has all of the leverage. Surely you mean no leverage? She can abort or put up for adoption, he can do neither, nor "financially" abort (nor prevent abortion if she wants it).
- leetcrew 7y agoI think you misunderstand my point. if all this stuff is important for a woman who's going to be the primary caregiver to the children, it should be codified regardless of whether the parents are actually married.