Coming up on my 4-year anniversary at a company, having just returned from 2 years in a foreign office, I told my Director I'd like a 3rd week of vacation and n

Coming up on my 4-year anniversary at a company, having just returned from 2 years in a foreign office, I told my Director I'd like a 3rd week of vacation and no more money. Just treat me like I'd been working here an extra year. He got me a $5,000 raise, no extra vacation time. Said that he did his best and he was the type of person I'd absolutely believe. Ever since then, in my mind, a vacation day has to be worth more than $1,000. Simple economics, right? Somehow giving me $5,000 maximizes shareholder value more than giving me 5 extra days off. My next job was more generous with vacation. They used the accrual method with a maximum and there was an extended period where it had become difficult to take time off and they'd stopped putting our PTO balance on our paystubs... so at some point I track down where to find the info and realize I'd lost 10 days of vacation accrual. I about lost my mind and HR couldn't understand why I felt like they'd cheated me out of more than $10,000. Felt trapped in the job forever 'cause eventually I'm earning I think 27 vacation days per year, and 10 to start is pretty typical, maybe 15 if you're lucky... And as much as we might like to think everything is negotiable, reality on the ground is that very little besides salary can be successfully negotiated.