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Hey I feel you. A lot of people might not like my answer, but here it goes. I have a 2,5 month old daughter, and my wife breastfeeds her. During the night, I d
by koonsolo 7y ago
Hey I feel you.
A lot of people might not like my answer, but here it goes. I have a 2,5 month old daughter, and my wife breastfeeds her. During the night, I don't wake up because she immediately gives her milk when she wakes up. There are a few things evolution gave us for support (correct me if these 'facts' are wrong):
- When women breastfeed, they get some hormone that can put them into REM sleep way faster.
- Men are not as sensitive for sounds during their sleep as women.
So evolution wise, this was probably mainly a mothers sacrifice. This lets the other, more physically strong parent (when that was still important) function at 100%.
In these modern times, work is divided and so both parents divide all family and money work, and so also share the sacrifice of sleep deprivation.
- dm3 7y agoNot sure why people wouldn't like this answer. We've had great success with this approach and co-sleeping even after the breastfeeding period. Would be interested to hear negative experiences.
- koonsolo 7y agoI was afraid of the "women should take care of the family" argument.
- surfsvammel 7y agoWe do this as well. Well, we try. But I sleep more light than my wife. So it is always me waking up first anyway. With our first child, I slept in another room altogether to get the sleep needed for work. With two small ones it’s much harder. I either get woken up by a karate heel-kick to my nose or just the horrible feeling of a wet bed.
- jakebellacera 7y agoI'm in a very similar situation right now: my daughter is 2.5 months old and my wife breastfeeds. And while the first month was rough for both of us; ironically, I feel like I've been sleeping better than I have in years during the last month. Probably because I know that I need to sleep to perform my best when I work so I can provide for my family.