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I don't get it - the nerds were misogynistic, therefore his memory and experience are invalid?

by deogeo 7y ago

taneq 7y ago
Not just that, she's saying the nerds themselves were invalid. Guess she's a misollectual.
- tom_mellior 7y ago
  I don't read her as saying that the nerds were invalid. I think what she's saying is that if you were part of this group, the early Internet seemed welcoming and inclusive, but if you weren't, it was the opposite. From within a community it's easy to feel inclusive! For whatever it's worth, even though I am a white male nerd myself, I never really felt welcome in "hacker spaces" and such. It must be a lot worse for people who are not white or male. And I'll believe her when she says that that was her experience with the early Internet. (Or, well, today's Internet.)
  - TeMPOraL 7y ago
    > I think what she's saying is that if you were part of this group, the early Internet seemed welcoming and inclusive, but if you weren't, it was the opposite. From within a community it's easy to feel inclusive! Arguably, the people who weren't "in the group" at that time were people who weren't interested or didn't have access. Internet was neither global nor cheap nor popular back then. As for the misogyny angle, I feel either she fixated herself on a problem and is projecting, or this remark was included to signal allegiance with the social justice crowd. As it is now, the comment reeks of antiintellectualism. > It must be a lot worse for people who are not white or male. I don't think it was back then, because back then people didn't care much about it, and a lot of communities of post-university Internet were text-only pseudonymous communication anyway. As for what's today, increasingly it's being white or male that makes you out of place in a hacker space.
    - tom_mellior 7y ago
      > a lot of communities of post-university Internet were text-only pseudonymous communication anyway So is this. Which is enough for you to spread the old, tired, harmful, and incorrect trope that "people who are not in tech are just not interested". A text-only discussion of how women or minorities don't belong because they don't want to belong is unwelcoming in itself. > As for what's today, increasingly it's being white or male that makes you out of place in a hacker space. You are twisting my words. For one thing, I don't feel "out of place" among non-white non-male people. People are people, I'm not afraid of them because of the color of their skin or what I guess their genitalia are like. For the other, all the hacker spaces I've seen where I didn't feel welcome had large white male majorities.
      - oh_sigh 7y ago
        > For one thing, I don't feel "out of place" among non-white non-male people This seems like your own biases are your worst enemy then. So a predictor of your comfort is the non-white, non-maleness of the group? I wonder what this predictor would be called if it was black men that made you feel uncomfortable? You really feel equally "in place" among a group of Hmong women as you do among a group of Honduran women as you do among a group of Nigerian women, but you can't get settled in a group of Russian women?
        tom_mellior 7y ago
        > So a predictor of your comfort is the non-white, non-maleness of the group? No. I said "X is not the case", from which you cannot deduce "the opposite of X is true".
        oh_sigh 7y ago
        Yes, I'm familiar with denying the antecedent. I assumed you weren't just making the "I'm comfortable around non-white, non-male people" as a logical declaration in the vacuum, and not part of any point.
      - 7y ago
  - oh_sigh 7y ago
    Do you not feel comfortable because of the way you are treated by others, or because your own thoughts about the place make you uncomfortable?
  - taneq 7y ago
    > For whatever it's worth, even though I am a white male nerd myself, I never really felt welcome in "hacker spaces" and such. I never really felt welcome in my university sci-fi club, and only went a couple of times. Looking back, I realise it's because I was cripplingly shy rather than through any fault of the other people in the club. (In fact some of my good friends now were in the club at the time!) I think this kind of thing is more common than usually acknowledged, especially in this kind of discussion. It's one thing to feel out of place or unwelcome, it's quite another to lay sole responsibility for your feelings on the people around you.
    - tom_mellior 7y ago
      I agree that shyness is a huge factor. I don't think that I wrote or suggested that I'm laying responsibility for my shyness on others. Shyness is a thing, and it can be hard to overcome. And harder still if you are shy and you are not a white male in a white male dominated community. If the community wants to be inclusive, it has some responsibility in communicating who is welcome and what is offered to help newcomers overcome their shyness.
pjc50 7y ago
His memory and experience don't match her memory and experience, and her experience wasn't nearly as positive. Neither is "invalid", but we should remember the difference between "great" and "great (for the small set of people that enjoyed it)"

I don't get it - the nerds were misogynistic, therefore his memory and experience are invalid?

by deogeo 7y ago

I don't get it - the nerds were misogynistic, therefore his memory and experience are invalid?

taneq 7y ago

Not just that, she's saying the nerds themselves were invalid. Guess she's a misollectual.

tom_mellior 7y ago
I don't read her as saying that the nerds were invalid. I think what she's saying is that if you were part of this group, the early Internet seemed welcoming and inclusive, but if you weren't, it was the opposite. From within a community it's easy to feel inclusive! For whatever it's worth, even though I am a white male nerd myself, I never really felt welcome in "hacker spaces" and such. It must be a lot worse for people who are not white or male. And I'll believe her when she says that that was her experience with the early Internet. (Or, well, today's Internet.)
- TeMPOraL 7y ago
  > I think what she's saying is that if you were part of this group, the early Internet seemed welcoming and inclusive, but if you weren't, it was the opposite. From within a community it's easy to feel inclusive! Arguably, the people who weren't "in the group" at that time were people who weren't interested or didn't have access. Internet was neither global nor cheap nor popular back then. As for the misogyny angle, I feel either she fixated herself on a problem and is projecting, or this remark was included to signal allegiance with the social justice crowd. As it is now, the comment reeks of antiintellectualism. > It must be a lot worse for people who are not white or male. I don't think it was back then, because back then people didn't care much about it, and a lot of communities of post-university Internet were text-only pseudonymous communication anyway. As for what's today, increasingly it's being white or male that makes you out of place in a hacker space.
  - tom_mellior 7y ago
    > a lot of communities of post-university Internet were text-only pseudonymous communication anyway So is this. Which is enough for you to spread the old, tired, harmful, and incorrect trope that "people who are not in tech are just not interested". A text-only discussion of how women or minorities don't belong because they don't want to belong is unwelcoming in itself. > As for what's today, increasingly it's being white or male that makes you out of place in a hacker space. You are twisting my words. For one thing, I don't feel "out of place" among non-white non-male people. People are people, I'm not afraid of them because of the color of their skin or what I guess their genitalia are like. For the other, all the hacker spaces I've seen where I didn't feel welcome had large white male majorities.
    - oh_sigh 7y ago
      > For one thing, I don't feel "out of place" among non-white non-male people This seems like your own biases are your worst enemy then. So a predictor of your comfort is the non-white, non-maleness of the group? I wonder what this predictor would be called if it was black men that made you feel uncomfortable? You really feel equally "in place" among a group of Hmong women as you do among a group of Honduran women as you do among a group of Nigerian women, but you can't get settled in a group of Russian women?
      - tom_mellior 7y ago
        > So a predictor of your comfort is the non-white, non-maleness of the group? No. I said "X is not the case", from which you cannot deduce "the opposite of X is true".
        oh_sigh 7y ago
        Yes, I'm familiar with denying the antecedent. I assumed you weren't just making the "I'm comfortable around non-white, non-male people" as a logical declaration in the vacuum, and not part of any point.
    - 7y ago
- oh_sigh 7y ago
  Do you not feel comfortable because of the way you are treated by others, or because your own thoughts about the place make you uncomfortable?
- taneq 7y ago
  > For whatever it's worth, even though I am a white male nerd myself, I never really felt welcome in "hacker spaces" and such. I never really felt welcome in my university sci-fi club, and only went a couple of times. Looking back, I realise it's because I was cripplingly shy rather than through any fault of the other people in the club. (In fact some of my good friends now were in the club at the time!) I think this kind of thing is more common than usually acknowledged, especially in this kind of discussion. It's one thing to feel out of place or unwelcome, it's quite another to lay sole responsibility for your feelings on the people around you.
  - tom_mellior 7y ago
    I agree that shyness is a huge factor. I don't think that I wrote or suggested that I'm laying responsibility for my shyness on others. Shyness is a thing, and it can be hard to overcome. And harder still if you are shy and you are not a white male in a white male dominated community. If the community wants to be inclusive, it has some responsibility in communicating who is welcome and what is offered to help newcomers overcome their shyness.

pjc50 7y ago

His memory and experience don't match her memory and experience, and her experience wasn't nearly as positive. Neither is "invalid", but we should remember the difference between "great" and "great (for the small set of people that enjoyed it)"