I'm not American but I don't know how it's possible. Maybe I'm still young, maybe I'm living through special circumstances that will never occur again, but I ma

I'm not American but I don't know how it's possible. Maybe I'm still young, maybe I'm living through special circumstances that will never occur again, but I make friend circles regularly. It rather snowballs easily: you get into a circle, befriend some people of the circle who introduce you to their own circles etc. I'm not especially charismatic or extravert, but I do have a range of weird/niche/obscure hobbies that are easy for people to bond over. I'm also very party-going, that may help. I find that if you take an interest in people (actually listening to what they say), things (discover new hobbies) and cultures you can never run out of things to share. You also need not to be easily shocked by what you encounter. I also noticed that American workplaces tend to be very sanitized environments where 'mingling' beyond a very casual level or having any deep discussion (about things like, say, religion or politics) is frowned upon and seen as 'unprofessional'. People getting fired or transfered for romantic relationships and stuff. That plus the rise of online dating (which means you can just pick people as in a supermarket, as it were, use them to fulfill whatever emotional needs you have, and discard - ghost - them without having to go through this messy social circle thingy) means there are less avenues for this 'circle snowball' effect. What a shame.