It doesn't meet your hackability requirements, but I suggest Ubiquiti for wifi AP's at a price point that home owners can afford. I personally prefer keeping m

It doesn't meet your hackability requirements, but I suggest Ubiquiti for wifi AP's at a price point that home owners can afford. I personally prefer keeping my wifi separate from the router, which this affords you. See this for a crash course in an entire Unifi setup, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_-iuY_xxFY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_-iuY_xxFY I personally run pi-hole on a pi, use an edgerouter x and unifi aps for the house.