> conflicting self expression Hm, yes! That's indeed a tricky part. My specific proposal oversimplifies the situation. The term "chosen mode of respect" is cro

> conflicting self expression Hm, yes! That's indeed a tricky part. My specific proposal oversimplifies the situation. The term "chosen mode of respect" is cropping up recently, perhaps an amicable solution lies the direction of mutually expecting and accepting each other's respect, and not assuming malice quite as easily. All this being said if disagreements often escalate all the way to a CoC incident, that's a sign of a disrespectful community that needs more than just a document. In any case it is encouraging that conversations such as this can still be productive in some forums, like this one. Edit: Looks like people have been editing others' posts to use gender-neutral wording for a while, to various degrees of acceptance: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/373422/is-editing-code-in-posts-to-remove-gender-frowned-upon/388005 https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/373422/is-editing-c... https://stackoverflow.com/review/suggested-edits/23659540 https://stackoverflow.com/review/suggested-edits/23659540 There are more. I didn't realize people could edit other people's posts. This adds a whole new complicated dimension.