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> or have their pronouns in their profiles. So it would be everyone's obligation to check everyone's profile before interacting with them in any way - even if
by MauranKilom 7y ago
> or have their pronouns in their profiles.
So it would be everyone's obligation to check everyone's profile before interacting with them in any way - even if it only makes a difference in 1%-3% of the cases? That's just plain unrealistic if you ask me.
- Pfhreak 7y agoThis impacts women in tech spaces as well, where frequently 'he' is the default assumption. And yeah, many discords and forums I'm a part of include pronouns in usernames, fields below the name, in hovercards, or in profiles. In the rare occasion you need to reference someone's pronouns, it takes ~3 seconds to look up. It's genuinely pretty rare to refer to another poster using a pronoun. Often you'll see, "the parent commenter" or "the op", etc. Open up your comment history and look through it -- how often do you use a pronoun? Specifically to refer to another commenter (and not about a person referenced in an article)? I'm guessing very, very infrequently...
- MauranKilom 7y agoThe most common case for me is commenting on a SO answer something like "This is not what the OP asked about. <They> wanted X and you only talk about Y" and similar - talking in third person about the asker. I have yet to encounter a case where "they" seems inappropriate. That said, I will not go out of my way to check someone's profile before talking to them. Given a technical aid (e.g. hovercard) that might not be a problem though.
- luckylion 7y ago> Often you'll see, "the parent commenter" or "the op", etc. That would be a violation in the new CoC for SO, as it would be avoiding the use of preferred pronouns.