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You know what else is a dick move? - punishing people for wrongthink.

• fzeroracer 7y ago
  Let's use a hypothetical here. Let's say you're on a team with someone named Mike. Mike has a team member that keeps referring to him as 'Mikey'. Mike doesn't like this, because he feels it's demeaning and rude. He insists on being called Mike, but his teammate refuses. If his manager gets involved and tells said team member to cut it out, is that punishing someone for wrongthink? Do you think it's acceptable to repeatedly call someone a name that they don't like?
  • crististm 7y ago
    Are you talking about name-calling? Cause people already know what to do about it. Is "Mikey" pejorative?
  • iMerNibor 7y ago
    There's a huge difference between calling someone you know and have interacted with for a significant amount of time or a random internet stranger the wrong thing though (not to mention the overhead of looking up & remembering the pronoun vs just writing around it for technical/factual answers)
    • fzeroracer 7y ago
      Except that's not the scenario in question. The person I was responding to (and in turn, the OP) was about someone explicitly not calling you by what you request even after you ask them to please to so. In my scenario, it doesn't change much if Mike is a new employee at said company. The coworker still calls him Mikey even after the employee's requests to stop, which would be considered rude by a lot of people.
  • anang 7y ago
    There is a distinct difference between asking to be called something, and asking to not be called something. I don’t think anyone is arguing that it’s right or correct to continue using a pronoun or name that someone has specifically objected to.