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If they honestly don’t know the persons gender then it isn’t clear to me why they would choose a pronoun to begin with. If I don’t know someone’s name I don’t j
by toofy 7y ago
If they honestly don’t know the persons gender then it isn’t clear to me why they would choose a pronoun to begin with. If I don’t know someone’s name I don’t just start calling them Bill, I ask them their name and when they say “Hi I’m William but I prefer Bill” and move on with my life knowing to refer to this person as Bill, not William.
If it was a genuine accident I personally see no problem with it and from my personal anecdotal experience the only place I’ve seen anyone get upset over an accidental misgendering or accidental dead naming was on outrage pieces done by outragePorn news sites just looking for ways to clickbait vulnerable anger-prone clickers.
If someone intentionally misgenders another I personally just assume the misgenderer is an asshole, just as I would if someone intentionally and repeatedly calls someone by the wrong name.
- mattigames 7y agoThe problem is that in many cases you can never know for sure if someone is intentionally missgendering or if it was just a mistake (e.g forgot their pronouns or if is confusing them for someone else), which is extremely easy to do in online forum because we lack a lot of social clues present in real life that help us remind who are we talking to, like their faces and their voice; more-so because internet moderators interact with hundreds of people on a daily basis and is completely reasonable to forget some details of each conversation they participate in.